Ib tug neeg tsis tuaj yeem tswj txoj kev hlub thiab muaj qee zaus thaum muaj kev xav tshwm sim rau tus neeg uas tau sib yuav. Feem ntau koj tuaj yeem hnov zaj paj lug hais tias koj tsis tuaj yeem ua kom muaj kev zoo siab rau lwm tus neeg txoj kev khaum thiab qee qhov xwm txheej yog li ntawd, tab sis yog tias koj tsis muaj lub zog los cia tus neeg mus?
Yuav ua li cas kom ib tug txij nkawm tus txij nkawm?
Nyob rau tej lub sijhawm no, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis ua yuam kev, raws li ntau tus neeg muaj peev xwm raug kev txom nyem. Yog tias txoj kev xav tsis sib thooj thiab tsuas yog qhov txuas nrog ib tug neeg, qhov no yog kev sib daj sib deev, ces tsis txhob tso kev tsis zoo thiab tso siab rau ib yam dab tsi ntxiv.
Psychologist lub tswv yim yuav ua li cas kom ib tug txiv neej sib yuav:
- Ua ib tug detective. Txoj hauj lwm yog kom ua tib zoo mloog tus xaiv ib tug, ua tib zoo saib xyuas ntau yam txog tus poj niam, thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj yog nws qhov tsis muaj tseeb. Yog tias koj xav muab ib tug txiv neej los ntawm tsev neeg, ces koj yuav tsum tau ntau zaus zoo tshaj qhov uas tam sim no nyob ze.
- Ntsia koj tus kheej. Ib tug txiv neej yuav txiav txim siab tawm hauv tsev neeg, tab sis tsuas yog tias tus poj niam tshiab yeej tsim nyog lawm xwb. Yog li ntawd, vim li cas koj yuav tsum saib xyuas koj lub tsos thiab sab puab. Mus rau qhov chaw zoo nkauj, hnav fashionably thiab tau ntxim hlub. Coj mus rau hauv tus account tias daim duab yuav tsum tawm hauv nws tus kheej ib qho kev nkag siab. Yuav kom muaj txij nkawm, koj yuav tsum muaj kev lom zem, vim hais tias lub ntsiab lus thiab qhov sib thooj ntawm ib tug poj niam, feem ntau yuav, ua txhaum cai. Nyeem cov phau ntawv, nrhiav koj tus kheej ib qho kev nyiam ua haujlwm, muaj ntau yam, ib qho tib si, ib tug txiv neej yuav tsum nyob ze rau koj.
- Yog hais tias ib tug txiv neej hnov kev xav, ces koj tuaj yeem ua kom nws khib . Hauv no qhov teeb meem, qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis pub dhau nws. Nws yuav tsum paub tias lwm tus txiv neej xav kom nws xaiv ib tug thiab thaum twg nws tau poob nws.
- Ntau tus xav paub seb nws puas yuav ua tau kom txiv neej pw ua ke los tsis tau. Mob siab rau thiab nyiam sib deev, qhov no yeej zoo, tab sis rau
kev ua haujlwm puv ntoob thiab ntev-ntev yog qhov tseem ceeb thiab lwm yam. Tsim kom muaj kev hlub rau koj tus hlub thiab sov so. - Yuav yooj yim rau qhov nce, tsis thov dab tsi thiab tsis tswj. Xws li "shackles" txaus rau nws nyob rau hauv nws kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus poj niam. Tus txiv neej nws tus kheej yuav tsum to taub qhov twg nws yooj yim dua rau nws ua thiab qhov twg nws zoo siab. Tsuas yog nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no nws yuav muaj peev xwm los suav rau ntawm qhov tseeb tias qhov teeb meem yuav raug daws rau hauv koj lub siab.
Ntau tus ntxhais, xav txog tias yuav ua li cas thiaj tau ib tug txiv neej sib yuav, mus rau hauv cov kauj ruam ruam thiab ua tub rog. Kuv tsuas xav hais tias nyob rau hauv no txoj kev nws yog yuav luag tsis yooj yim sua kom xaiv tus xaiv rau koj tus kheej, thiab nyob rau hauv qee qhov teeb meem, xov xwm tsis paub tseeb yuav cia li tawm tsam tus khub.