Kev sib yuav yog ib kauj ruam, tsis muaj teeb meem, thiab txhua tus ntxhais cuam tshuam txog ib tug zoo nkauj tshoob nrog ib tug zoo nraug vauv. Thiab thaum lawv xav txog lawv tus kheej nrog rau kev zoo nkauj, cov ntxhais yog quaj los ntawm lo lus nug "pes tsawg xyoo kuv tuaj yeem sib yuav?" Nws yog txaus heev kom tawm hauv lub tsev nyob rau hauv ib tug kab tshoob tiab.
Muaj qee zaum thaum muaj ib tug txiv leej tub thiab ib tug ntxhais tau ntsib ntau xyoo thiab xav kom tau sib yuav, rau cov khub niam txiv xws li "ntau xyoo koj tuaj yeem sib yuav (yuav txij nkawm)?" Yog ib qho mob ntxiv. Yog li, pes tsawg xyoo koj tuaj yeem thov rau lub chaw ua haujlwm npe?
Xyov pes tsawg xyoo tau sib yuav raws txoj cai?
Cia peb pib, tej zaum, nrog rau Russia - pes tsawg xyoo los ntawm kev cai lij choj tau koj tau sib yuav nyob rau hauv Russia? Tsev Neeg Txoj Cai tsim kom muaj hnub nyoog ntawm kev sib yuav (tus naj npawb ntawm cov xyoo tom qab uas tus neeg muaj peev xwm sib yuav) rau 18 xyoo. Tab sis yog tias muaj cov laj thawj raug cai, lawv yuav tau sib yuav (tab sis tsis tau them) cov muaj hnub nyoog 16 xyoo. Ntxiv mus, yog muaj cov xwm txheej tshwj xeeb uas tau muaj los ntawm cov kev cai lij choj ntawm Lavxias teb sab Federation, kev sib yuav tuaj yeem xaus ua ntej hnub nyoog kaum rau.
Thiab muaj pes tsawg xyoo nyob rau hauv Ukraine kuv tau txais txij nkawm? Kom txog thaum nyuam qhuav, nws tau raug tso cai los ntawm lub hnub nyoog ntawm kaum yim, tab sis Tsev Neeg Txoj Cai ntawm Ukraine hauv lub Plaub Hlis 2012 tau tsim kho ntxiv kom tsa cov hnub nyoog sib yuav rau cov poj niam. Tam sim no nws yog, zoo li nyob rau hauv Russia, 18 xyoo. Tab sis txoj cai rau kev sib yuav tuaj yeem tau los ntawm ib tug ntxhais (lossis tus tub) rau 16 xyoo los ntawm tsev hais plaub kev txiav txim siab thaum qhov kev sib yuav ua tau raws li qhov kev xav ntawm tus txij nkawm uas xav sib yuav. Yav dhau los, hnub nyoog qis kawg rau kev sib yuav yog 14 xyoos. Kev txhim kho lub hnub nyoog ntawm kev sib yuav tau piav qhia los ntawm cov sau phau ntawv ntawm daim ntawv sau ua ib qho kev sim rau cov tub ntxhais hluas dhau los ua ib tus neeg muaj lub luag haujlwm thiab kev coj zoo rau lub tsev neeg.
Thaum twg yog lub sijhawm sib yuav?
Tej zaum ntau tus poj niam xav tau sib yuav hauv lawv lub taub hau, kawm tias yuav tsum tau tos txog kaum yim hnub, vim tsis muaj qhov tshwj xeeb thiab muaj kev sib fwm. Thiab ntawm cov hoob kawm, cov poj niam laus yuav sim ntxias lawv, hais tias tsis muaj chaw nyob maj maj, koj tseem muaj sijhawm rau koj tsev neeg lub neej loj loj nrog ib rab diav. Ob tiam neeg muaj lawv tus kheej tseeb, tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas tsis muaj pes tsawg xyoo uas koj tuaj yeem yuav los ntawm txoj cai, thiab thaum twg koj xav ua. Tom qab tag nrho, hnub nyoog tsis tseem ceeb, nws tshwm sim los ua ib tug poj niam 30 xyoo coj tus cwj pwm coj zoo, tsis paub txog nws txoj hauj lwm nws yuav tsum ua raws nws tus kheej los ntawm kev sib yuav. Thiab muaj qee zaum thaum muaj ib tug ntxhais hluas muaj 16 xyoo thiab ib tus menyuam mos-liab, thiab muaj kev sib tw nrog kev lag luam, thiab xav zoo siab. Txhua yam nyob ntawm tus neeg, txhua tus ntawm peb muaj hnub nyoog thaum nws yog lub sijhawm sib yuav, txawv.
Tab sis yuav ua li cas thiaj paub koj tus kheej lub hnub nyoog, yog tias lo lus nug "muaj pes tsawg xyoo poj niam yuav" tsis ua raws li daim ntaub thaiv ntawm secrecy? Thiab leej twg hais rau koj tias koj yuav tsum nug lwm tus lub tswv yim? Muaj cov kev xav zoo li no ntawm cov poj niam "Kuv tsis tau yuav ua ntej lub hnub nyoog 30 xyoo, yog li tsis muaj leej twg zoo", yog vim li cas cov ntxhais khiav mus rau lub chaw ua haujlwm npe, sim ntes txog hnub nyoog tseem ceeb.
Yog hais tias lub tswv yim ntawm lwm tus neeg kuj tsis yog tus neeg pab tswv yim rau qhov teeb meem ntawm txoj kev sib yuav, ces qhov kev cia siab kawg rau cov kws kho mob. Lawv hais tias qhov zoo tshaj plaws lub hnub nyoog rau hnub yug ntawm thawj tus me nyuam yog 23-25 xyoo. Yog li, koj yuav tsum tau sim kom muaj los ntawm tag nrho cov txhais tau tias? Txawm hais tias cov me nyuam tsis xav, txawm hais tias tus txiv neej yog tus uas muaj, nws tsis xav ua tus luag hlub ntawm ib tus neeg hlub? Thaj tsam nyob rau hauv nqe lus nug, thaum nws yog lub sij hawm mus sib yuav, thiab cov tshuaj tsis muaj zog.
Thiab txog dab tsi hnub nyoog peb tuaj yeem tham txog? Tsev neeg tsis muaj nuj nqis, nws yog kev xav, kev ntshaw thiab kev cog lus ntawm ob tug neeg uas tau txiav txim siab ua neej nyob ntev ua ke. Nws tsis muaj hnub nyoog li cas cov neeg no - 16 lossis 89.