Hlub cov niam txiv xav muab lawv cov menyuam ua qhov zoo tshaj plaws: khoom noj khoom haus, khaub ncaws, khoom ua si. Lawv puag ncig lawv nrog lub hiav txwv kev hlub thiab kev hlub. Tab sis nws tshwm sim hais tias niam thiab txiv indulge tus me nyuam lub whims, tsis twv kom tsis kam ib yam ntawm nws whims. Thiab ces ib tug me me tyrant hlob unnoticed, nrov demanding yam uas nws xav tau. Cov niam txiv yeej xav tsis thoob thaum twg thiab vim li cas lawv tus me nyuam tau ua li ntawd. Thiab lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb, yog tias ib tus me nyuam tub ploj nyob hauv tsev neeg, yog dab tsi?
Dab tsi yog piam sij?
Spoiled nyob rau hauv pedagogy xav txog ib tug me nyuam ill-bred. Spoiledness tshwm sim thaum niam txiv confuse lub tswvyim ntawm "kev kawm" nrog lub tswv yim ntawm "nce", uas yog, hnav thiab pub. Ntau tus niam thiab txiv tsis muaj lub sij hawm pub dawb pub rau cov menyuam yaus, ua haujlwm 10 xuaj moos lossis ntau tshaj ib hnub. Spoiledness kuj pom nrog txoj kev sib txawv ntawm niam txiv thiab pog / yawg txog kev kawm ntawv. Thaum cov me nyuam raug kev puas tsuaj, lawv paub qhov txawv ntawm kev ua siab loj, kev qia dub, kev ywj pheej ntawm niam txiv thiab lawv lub siab nyiam. Cov me nyuam yog kev xav tsis zoo thiab tsis paub tsim kev sib raug zoo nrog cov phooj ywg. Cov me nyuam mos no raug siv los nrhiav qhov lawv xav tau ntawm kev thov thiab tsis paub lo lus "tsis muaj" lossis "tsis." Thaum sim tsis kam yuav lwm lub cav, cov ntxhais yau ib lub pobtej nrog kua muag, ntaus lawv txhais tes, thiab lwm yam.
Yuav ua li cas rov kho dua ib tug me nyuam tub?
Yuav kom ua tau raws li lub tswv yim no, cov niam txiv yuav tsum ua siab ntev thiab ruaj khov. Tom qab tag nrho, tus me nyuam yuav tsum raug qhia kom muab nws lub siab nyiam. Yuav pib, nrog tus menyuam tham thiab piav qhia tias yog vim li cas nws tsis kam. Piav tias koj yuav tsis ua raws li nws lub siab xav, tsis yog vim koj tsis nyiam, tab sis vim muaj lub laj thawj zoo. Feem ntau, tus menyuam yuav to taub thiab qaws ib tus kab zauv tsis ua li cas. Yog tias kua muag thiab quaj yog siv, tsis txhob hloov koj lub cev. Zoo dua mus rau lwm chav tsev los yog qhib lub TV nrov nrov. Tseeb tus tub hluas yuav tuaj yeem nkees, thiab tom qab 20 feeb nws yuav nyob twj ywm. Tus me nyuam yuav tsum kawm paub txog cov kev xav "tsis yooj yim" thiab "ua tau." Siv cov nqe lus xws li "tsis tuaj yeem", "tsis txhob cia", hais tawm lawv hauv cov laus nruj.
Yuav ua li cas tsis lwj tus me nyuam?
Yog tias cov niam txiv tsis xav ua kom lawv cov me nyuam lwj, nws tsim nyog ua rau qee qhov kev pom zoo:
- Tsis txhob ua rau tus me nyuam nws ua tau nws tus kheej.
- Yuav ua raws li txoj cai "Tsis muaj - nws txhais tau tias tsis muaj!" Txhua zaus tsis muaj kev pom zoo.
- Txhawb nqa daim ntawv pov thawj ntawm kev coj tus cwj pwm zoo, kom tiav cov dej num.
- Txhawb kom tau cog lus tseg ntawm lwm tus neeg hauv tsev neeg kom tsis txhob ua rau cov me nyuam raug mob.