Hmoov tsis, ntau zaus koj tuaj yeem hnov cov lus tsis txaus siab los ntawm cov poj niam: "Kuv tus txiv yeej kuv," "tsa nws txhais tes," thiab cov zoo li no. Muaj tseeb tiag, qee zaus txiv neej ua nruj ua tsiv tsis pom kev, thiab nws los rau qhov tseeb tias ib tug txiv neej pib tuav nws tus poj niam los yog tus me nyuam, siv lawv cov tsis muaj zog thiab tig mus rau hauv ib lub teb chaws.
Txawm li cas los xij, qhov no tsuas yog thaum ib tug poj niam xav pom qhov ua siab tawv ntawm nws tus cwj pwm thiab ua kom pom lub zog, txwv tsis pub lub ntaus yeej yuav tsum tau nyiaj mus ntev heev.
Yuav ua li cas yog tias kuv tus txiv ntaus nws tus poj niam?
Yog hais tias tus txiv raug ntaus, qhov kev xaiv zoo tshaj plaws yog poob nws. Yog tias koj muaj menyuam yaus, thiab koj tsis xav tawm ntawm tus neeg raug tsim txom vim qhov no, ces xav txog: nws puas yuav zoo dua rau cov menyuam pom txhua yam ntawm kev ua phem thiab ib tus niam tsiv dua li tsis muaj leej txiv? Tus me nyuam txoj kev puas siab puas ntsws zoo heev, yog li yog tias koj tsis xav tsa me nyuam ntshai, ces nws yog qhov zoo tshaj kom tawm mus.
Yog tias tsis muaj txoj kev tawm, ces koj yuav tsum tau sib ntaus. Koj tsis tuaj yeem hloov cov neeg siab phem, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog vim muaj ib tus txiv neej muaj kev xiam hlwb (uas yuav tsum tau kho), yog li ntawd txhua zaus kev sim siab, kev coj cwj pwm, kev ua tiav nws cov kev xav yuav tsis ua rau qhov xav tau.
Nov yog qee cov lus qhia uas tuaj yeem pab txo qhov teeb meem:
- nws yog naïve ntseeg tias koj yuav muaj peev xwm nrog nws sib luag ntawm kev sib npaug, tab sis nws yuav tsis mob siab rau kev tso npe rau kev tiv thaiv tus kheej;
- thiab koj yuav tsum tiv thaiv kom muaj kev tsis txaus siab: yog tias nws yog qhov tseeb tias tus txiv "pib", tawm hauv tsev mus ib ntus los yog tsis hnov mob rau lawv. Ua piv txwv tsis txhob pom nws, thiab cia nws ua qhov nws xav tau;
- nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom npaj ib chav tsis muaj iav qhov rooj thiab dai rau ntawm nws sab hauv yog tias tus txiv pib tua, koj yuav nkaum los ntawm nws. Nws yog ntshaw kom muaj dej nyob ntawd thiab qee qhov kev sib txuas lus, uas nws tsis tuaj yeem txiav tawm;
- tab sis nws txoj hauj lwm yuav tsum tau tshaj tawm: hu rau hauv xov xwm hauv zos, feem ntau yog cov neeg sau xov xwm tab tom nrhiav kev sim neej zoo li lub neej, yog li ntawd nws tsis pom zoo rau qhov tsis kam luam tawm. Nws yog ib lub tswv yim kom luam tawm tsis yog lub npe xwb, tab sis kuj yog ib daim duab, yog li ntawd nws cov yeeb yam tau ntxub los ntawm tag nrho cov neeg uas nws paub txog. Tej zaum nws tsis yog ntshai ntawm koj, tab sis nws muaj peev xwm yuav frightened los ntawm qhov teeb meem ntawm ib tug outcast. Yog tias koj twv tsis coj cov kauj ruam no, nrog koj cov txheeb ze tham, cia lawv koom nrog koj;
- thiab koj tuaj yeem sim muab nws sedatives (yog tias nws tsis yog ib qho dej cawv uas nyob hauv qhov haus dej-tas li);
- yog hais tias tus txiv ntaus nws tus poj niam cev xeeb tub, ces nws yuav tsum cia nws tawm hauv txhua yam, tk. qhov no yog ib qho kev tshwm sim heev ntawm kev phem thiab kev kos npe tsis muaj morality, thiab feem ntau yuav, nws yog txawm muaj peev xwm tua. Tsis muaj dab tsi yuav tsum nres tus poj niam tawm tsam nrog tus txiv neej no.
Vim li cas tus txiv yeej nws tus poj niam?
Rau qee tus poj niam qhov no yog qhov tsis paub: yog vim li cas tus txiv yuav tsum ua rau nws tus poj niam, vim nws xaiv nws, sib yuav thiab tej zaum nws nyiam. Rau lwm tus, lo lus teb yog qhov pom tseeb, thiab nws nug kev txawj ntse, kev ncaj ncees thiab lwm yam ntxwv ntawm tus txiv neej zoo li no.
Feem ntau, cov txiv neej tuav lawv cov poj niam vim lawv xav tias nws yog qhov tseeb: lawv hais tias lawv pom lawv lub zog, "rau txim" lawv tus txij nkawm rau kev ua tsis ncaj ncees, los yog tsuas yog txaus siab lawv yuav tsum raug mob.
Txawm li cas los xij, vim li cas ib tug txiv neej hu ua, lawv txhua yam lus dag, tsis tshua muaj leej twg to taub txog yam tseem ceeb ntawm cov cwj pwm xws li: kev kawm tsis zoo, kev tsis sib haum xeeb thiab kev txo tus kheej.
Cov kev qhia ruam-ib-theem: yuav ua licas yog tias tus txiv qhuav ntaus nws?
- Peb yuav tsum sim khiav tawm ntawm nws. Tsis muaj leej twg muaj peev xwm cog lus, nws cia li nqes, lossis nws yog lub sijhawm ua ntej "thib ob".
- Yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tawm, xauv koj tus kheej hauv chav tsev nrog lub xov tooj thiab hu rau tub ceev xwm, qhia rau lawv paub tias koj tuaj yeem raug tua (yog tias tus txiv yeej npau taws heev). Nyob rau txhua rooj plaub, hu rau tub ceev xwm: lawv txoj hauj lwm yog los tiv thaiv cov neeg tsis muaj zog thiab tsis muaj kev tiv thaiv tawm tsam kev phem, yog li ntawd lawv yuav pab koj, thiab tus txiv yuav xav tias tom ntej yuav pib "kev sib tw".
- Yog hais tias tus txiv raug ntaus raug ntau (muaj tsawg kawg yog ib tug khawb los yog nqaij) -
kuj hu rau lub tsheb thauj neeg mob: cov kws kho mob yuav pab kom nyob twj ywm hauv lub cev tsis zoo ntawm tus txiv neej, thiab koj raug kuaj xyuas.
Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis txhob ntshai ua phem rau tus neeg phem no (thiab vim li ntawd, tub ceev xwm yuav paub tias tus txiv sib ntaus sib tua thiab yuav tua nws): tam sim no nws muaj hmoo, nws npau taws rau tus poj niam uas tsis muaj peev xwm teb tau, tab sis xav tias yog tom ntej yog ib tug txiv neej ob peb zaug muaj zog dua nws, dab tsi yuav tau ntawm no thiaj li hu tus txiv? Yog li ntawd, koj zoo dua qhia nws nws coj tus cwj pwm, thiab qhia tias tsis muaj kev txwv. Tsis txhob suav cov kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg ntawd, thiab nrhiav kom tau lub sijhawm los tua lawv. Tag nrho cov kev ntsuas tawm tsam kev nruj kev tsiv tsuas yog ib qho kev hloov mus ib ntus.