Zoo kawg nkaus, thaum koj tuaj rau hauv tsev, koj ntsib ib tug me nyuam yaus me me. Xws li ib qho txuj ci tseem ceeb ua rau tsev neeg tsuas muaj kev xyiv fab thiab kev sib haum xeeb. Tab sis qee zaus xws li ib qho kev rhuav tshem los ntawm khawb thiab tom ntawm cov txhais tes. Ib tug me ntsis tsiaj yog ib txwm yog ib tug predator, thiab nws tsis paub yuav ua li cas coj zoo, yog li tsis txhob kiam nws rau nws. Tab sis yuav ua li cas thaum tus me nyuam tas li tom thiab khawb? Peb yuav sim teb lo lus nug no hnub no.
Muaj coob tus ntseeg tias miv tsis muab rau hauv kev cob qhia, tias lawv tsis tau kawm. Tab sis qhov no tsis yog qhov tseeb. Nws yog ib qho yooj yim uas tua tau ib tug me nyuam yaus tom thiab ua kom zoo li ib tug menyuam dev. Hnyav-lub limtiam-laus tsiaj muaj peev xwm sib txuas lus nrog kev ua si, siv cov ntaub ntawv nruj heev. Thiab yog tias koj nyob rau lub hnub nyoog no cia tus me nyuam yaus tua thiab tom, nws xav tias nws yog kev sib tw nrog nws.
Lub hauv paus ntsiab lus yog vim li cas ib tug me nyuam yaus tom
- Tus me nyuam yaus tom thaum ua si. Qhov kev xaiv no yog qhov feem ntau thiab tsis muaj teeb meem. Qhov no, tus tsiaj tsis xav ua rau tus tswv tsev, nws tsis paub tias qhov no yuav ua tsis tau.
- Yog hais tias ib tug me me pussy yog tws, ces nws yuav tas rub txhua yam nyob rau hauv nws lub qhov ncauj thiab tom.
- Tus miv raug mob thiab nws mob mob. Qhov no yog qhov laj thawj tshaj plaws rau tus tsiaj txhoj puab heev. Hauv qhov no, nws yog ib qhov tsim nyog los qhia rau tus menyuam yaus rau tus kws kho tsiaj sai li sai tau.
- Qhov chaw seem rau tus tsiaj kuj yog qhov ua rau nws tus cwj pwm nruj nruj.
- Ib tug menyuam yaus ntshai los ntawm txhua yam lossis leej twg. Nws yog tsiaj txhu ntshai tshaj plaws uas yog feem ntau txhoj puab heev. Ib tug miv nyob rau hauv lub xeev no tsuas yog khi thiaj li tiv thaiv nws tus kheej, yog li nws xav rau kev tsim txom ib tug neeg nyob rau hauv txhua txoj kev. Yog tias koj txiav txim siab yam dab tsi ntshai tus tsiaj, thiab tshem tawm qhov ua rau muaj kev ntshai - tus me nyuam yuav tsum tso siab tseg thiab nres tom.
- Tus tsiaj redirects aggression. Piv txwv li, ib tug miv tau pom ib tug neeg sib tw zoo ib yam li nws cov chaw nyob thiab tsis tuaj yeem tua nws. Nyob rau hauv rooj plaub no, nws yog yuam kom nws nchuav tawm nws qhov kev ua phem rau cov tib neeg ntawm nws tam sim ntawd. Qhov kev npau taws no tsis yog tswj hwm, nws yog tus tsiaj kev xav. Ib yam li ntawd, nws tuaj yeem ua haujlwm rau ib tug noog nyob hauv chav tsev, ntseeg tias nws yuav siv nws qhov chaw.
Yuav ua li cas yog tias tus me nyuam yaus tom?
Cov xwm txheej thiab kev lis kev cai ntawm cov tsiaj raug nteg thiab tsim nyob rau hauv thaum yau. Yog li ntawd, nws yog qhov tsim nyog yuav tsum tau ua tiag tiag qhov upbringing ntawm tus me nyuam thaum nws tom.
Yog tias koj tau txiav txim siab tias koj tus menyuam tau raug ntshai los ntawm ib yam dab tsi, ua ntej txhua yam nws yuav tsum tshem tawm qhov kev ntshai, thiab tom qab cov tsiaj txhu, plws thiab nqig. Tsis tas li ntawd, txhawm rau paub thiab tshem tawm qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev ua phem yog qhov tsim nyog rau thaum muaj kev cuam tshuam loj heev rau cov miv - lwm tus tsiaj tus tsiaj, tus pauv lossis lwm yam kev tsis txaus siab.
Yuav ua li cas rau cov me nyuam yaus tom qhov kev ua si? Muas cov khoom ua si rau tus tsiaj, uas koj tuaj yeem pov, pov, rub rau kev nuv ntses. Tom qab ntawd cov tsiaj xav yuav txaus siab thiab tus me nyuam yaus yuav nres rush ntawm tus masters, tom ntawm taw.
Ib qho kev npaj txhij txog sai sai ntawm dej yuav pab tshem tawm txoj kev raug mob ntawm tus tsiaj. Sim ua ob peb zaug kom txias rau cov menyuam ntawm ib txoj hauv kev li no, thiab tej zaum nws yuav tsis rov qab sim ua rau koj. Koj tuaj yeem npuaj teg ntawm koj txhais tes. Ntsig sonorous paj rwb yuav pab raws li ib hom ntawm txiav npluav rau kev txhoj puab heev ntawm tus tsiaj.
Thaum tag nrho cov tib tshwm sim, nws tsis yog tsim nyog rau jerk tawm qhov chaw puas sai sai - tsuas yog lub ceeb prey li nws, thiab tus tsiaj xav tias tsis muaj zog thiab insecure. Nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau tig thiab nyob ze rau tus me nyuam, thiab nws, tig mus, xav, yuav cia koj mus.
Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov yog tias tus menyuam yaus yog ib tug tsiaj nyaum, uas koj muaj lub luag haujlwm. Nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv tsis offend los yog ua kom poob koj tus tsiaj, hlub thiab caress nws, qhov no yog tus yuam sij rau kev nkag siab.